There are a lot of ways we can “destroy [our] kids without even trying,” says Michael Pearl on his list on NoGreaterJoy.org. The one thing I struggle with? I “[express] displeasure regularly.” I don’t want to, but often when I see or hear things that violate our rules, I get upset. Do you sometimes feel like your kids are pushing your buttons on purpose? Seriously, it’s hard, isn’t it? But, as Pearl discusses, we need to make sure we’re not spending the majority of our time “criticiz[ing] or show[ing] [our kids anger or] displeasure.” Don’t let them suck you in. In my experience and as Pearl says, the bad looks and anger “provoke bad attitudes” and more bad decisions. The only way we can change that is “when they find pleasure in” being around us, Pearl explains. That’s why Ephesians 6:4 is important: “Fathers, do not provoke your children to anger” (ESV). Remember: “Love is patient and kind” (1 Corinthians 13:4 ESV).
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