Reality discipline, developed by Dr. Kevin Leman, is a great tool. It shows our kids the decisions they make will affect their lives directly. For example, if your daughter is supposed to clean the upstairs bathroom on Saturday but decides to put it off, that decision shouldn’t allow her to go do something with her teenage friends when the bathroom hasn’t been cleaned yet. According to Dr. Leman, the response is, “No, we’re not going to do that tonight”—then, just walk away; don’t tell your kids what you’re doing because it’s better if they see it for themselves. But, don’t lose your cool either. Remember we’re working together to help each other deepen our relationships with each other, which will lead to opportunities to talk about God’s amazing grace.